Been there all along?

Recently I have been getting the feeling that what at least one of my callings is staring me right in the face. In just a few short days I had lots of people coming to me with the same problem, which I then tried to figure out for them, and I felt so natural doing it.

Most people don't know this because I keep my writing to myself for personal reasons... But I have been working on a book about Depression, Self Esteem, and Worth for at least a year now (and I haven't tried to publish because i want to make sure it's at it's best before then...) and I felt a calling to write about this. Now I don't want to exclude guys in this statement but when it comes to girls self esteem is a huge hurdle to overcome! And I have friends and people I barely know telling me how they don't feel like they are beautiful or full of worth...

I personally have overcome one of the most difficult things there is, feeling I have worth. It too me a while to come to this point but I believe that any woman/girl out there can also get here.

I really enjoy helping people. Taking the focus off of myself and helping others gives me a sort of "joy rush" and I want to help more and more until I can't help anymore and then help some more! I'm not a perfect selfless person but when it comes to raising the esteem in people I am always jumping on the chance to help.

So when a girl comes to me and says;

"I must not be beautiful because no guy asks me out or flirts with me." I want to have a little chat with them. I'll admit that I do a little mental eye roll and huff when I hear this sometimes. No, I do not think they are being pathetic. The annoyance I have is in guys. Sometimes I want to say "Dear men, please stop making girls feel they are worthless just because you don't flirt with them." But I can't blame guys too much because they don't really get it. I read a book that says that when it comes to (most) guys they try to get attention for respect. BUT. When it comes to (most) girls, in my opinion, we work hard to get attention for love. Girls want to feel loved. As a friend, sister, daughter, or girlfriend, we want to feel loved in that "post" you could say. And thanks to the media that tells us only the pretty girls get picked by guys we have this mental image that if guys aren't lining up to be with you, you aren't beautiful! NOTHING IS FARTHER FROM THE TRUTH! Just because you don't get hit on when you walk down the street doesn't mean you're ugly! I put up a barrier of confidence when I walk without a male friend with me. Why? Because you put off guys because most of the time they don't see you as a "easy target"

Guys that hit on random girls and date somebody different every other week are guys who go for "easy" and that's one of the many reasons why girls don't get hit on when they are so beautiful. Being insecure makes you like a fish in a barrel, easy catch.

There are so many other reasons but I don't want to get into them right now.

To continue from the beginning though, I keep coming upon girls who have problems that I address and show how to fix in the book I am working on. And I think this may be God pushing me to finish it and that part of my calling is to help people who have these issues... I'll just continue to pray about it and see.

And always remember that we are fearfully and wonderfully made!

-Keeping the Faith,

C.A.M