Question 1
Do you believe in love in general?
Yes I do, but I believe that love isn't just a fuzzy emotion, it's a commitment. Some of my favorite quotes are;
"You don't fall in love, you step up to it." "Love isn't staring deeply into each others eyes, but two people looking towards the same thing."
Sometimes we get so caught up in the romantic and emotional part of love that we forget it's more than that. And especially as christians since we also have our "Godly/holy/brotherly love" That is, showing how God loves us to others.
So yes, I do believe in love, and I believe in all the types of love and different ways of showing love etc.
Question 2
Do you believe in "Love at first sight"?
No, I do not. In relationships there are levels that we go in to. I've been reading about this in the book "Every Young Woman's Battle" which is about relationships which explains it best to me so far.
The first level is "Attention" This is when you are in a mall, church, school, walking down the street, in a car, and so on and so forth. You see somebody who fits what you like physically. Does this mean you should run over and get their info and plan a wedding date? No. Chances are that everyone in their life has seen lots of people that "got their attention" and if we live in cities or travel then you will see a lot more. This is not a "sin" or "bad" either. When you notice a person, you just notice them. And you may even get a rush if they notice you back. But this is not love at first sight, just noticing each other. Because the next level is "Attraction" This is when you start to get to know the person and you like them for their laugh, personality, jokes, interests, etc. It's getting to know the real person and liking them. This is where you can start to develop real feelings for a person. Leading me to...
Question 3
Do you believe in "Soulmates"?
Yes and No.
Now in my opinion you don't find your soulmate because you saw them went "doki doki" (aka heart pounded) and then said "They are meant for me!" like in Sleepless in Seattle. But, the person will get your attention first. After that you may get t know them and see that you are attracted to them, they like the same things as you do and are just what you need in your life! Because in my opinion a "soulmate" is a person tailor made by God to "fit your mold" and is right for you. Because for some people God made a person just right for them. And as a bit of a side note, not all people are meant to get married. This may sound sad but it's true and this isn't their fault of choice. God just has certain people remain single to better serve Him. But once again you can't just think "that's me" and go with that because only God knows. For a while I thought "I must be meant to be single because of the ministry I feel called for." But I don't know for sure, I would love to have that tailor made person.
Also, to me, a soulmate isn't just a person you just met and suddenly know you want to be with them (though it can be) it can also be a person you've known for a long time and as you get older and change into the people God made you to be you may see that you fit each other perfectly. I know people who met in grade school and have been married for over thirty years! I also know people who met and a few months later were married and have been together for about thirty years. "Soulmate" just means a person who was made for you. You are not two half's of a soul who only have a soul when you come together, you are two whole people who come together to make a much better whole.
And yes, there are a lot of people who ask things like "What if one of you dies? And they you get remarried. Were you supposed to be with the first, second, or both? And I'll be blunt and say, I don't know! Nobody really does! Because, like in most everything, only God knows all about these things. We may try to figure it out and fight over who is right but we don't really know who is. There are a lot of questions when it comes to soulmates that I don't really want to get into right now. But I will say that that is my opinion as of right now.
I'd like to say that hearing other opinions on this is something I love. I don't know everything and hearing the beliefs of others helps me figure out my own at times. So feel welcome to comment on what you think, or question you may have for me, I would love to hear them!
Well that's all for now folks, T.T.F.N!
(Genesis 2:24)
-Keeping the Faith,
C.A.M
I would be interested to hear about what you think love is. You explain that you believe in it, but you don't really define it very much (outside of a vague definition).
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